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Crossing borders for surrogacy: the problems for families and policymakers

Wednesday, June 1st, 2011

This article, written by Natalie Gamble for Bionews, was published on 31 May 2011:

bionewslogo3More people are crossing borders to build their families than ever before. Prospective parents can easily access information about treatment options in countries where regulations permit treatments outlawed in the UK or where there is little or no regulation at all. But where surrogacy is involved, going abroad raises very difficult legal issues.Problems arise where the law in the destination country and the law in the parents’ home country do not match up over the basic question of who are recognised as the legal parents. In the worst cases, babies are born without any legal parents, left stranded in the wrong country without identity or nationality. These sorts of issues are not uncommon in cross-border surrogacy cases, since what drives prospective parents to go abroad for surrogacy in the first place is the wish to access more liberal surrogacy laws.
Reasons for crossing borders might include escaping a prohibition on surrogacy at home, or accessing a commercial environment which makes surrogate mothers (and egg donors) more readily accessible. But because the parents may have breached the law or public policy at home, they are often denied legal parental status – even if they have a court order or birth certificate in the foreign country confirming their parentage.

From the perspective of the immigration authorities and family courts in the home countries, this creates a real headache. If a country has made a policy decision against surrogacy (or against commercial surrogacy), granting exceptions and solutions to those who evade the law by going abroad runs the risk of undermining the wider policy and encourages others to follow suit. However, the reality is that public policy collides uncomfortably with the need in practice to protect a vulnerable child who has already been born.

This is not just a problem for the UK. In a recently reported French case, twin children born through surrogacy to a French couple in the US were denied French citizenship. Similarly a German couple were recently denied a German passport for their child born through surrogacy in India.

The UK’s High Court Family Division, with its paramount focus on protecting the welfare of children, has been less intransigent, and there is a growing history of legal decisions which have retrospectively authorised foreign surrogacy arrangements.

The first case of this kind in 2008 involved a British couple whose surrogate twins were born ‘stateless and parentless’ in the Ukraine because of the conflict between UK and Ukrainian law: Ukrainian law said that the British couple were the parents, and British law said that the Ukrainian surrogate and her husband were the parents. The court ultimately sanctioned the commercial Ukrainian arrangement (an arrangement which would not have been legally possible to set up in the UK), awarding parenthood to the British parents. There have subsequently been three further reported cases in the High Court (and other applications granted without the decisions being made public) involving similar decisions.

The big problem is payments. UK law seeks to discourage payments for surrogacy, and the court is therefore struggling with the question of what it should do where parents enter into surrogacy arrangements outside the UK legal framework, and then retrospectively seek the approval of the court.

To be clear, it is not a question of the parents having broken the law. Payments for surrogacy are not (and never have been) illegal in the UK, since a deliberate decision was made when the law was put into place not to criminalise parents or surrogate mothers for making or receiving payments. What is illegal in the UK is for a third party to be paid to broker a surrogacy agreement, a rule which does not (and could not) extend to agencies outside the UK. Ultimately, it is therefore entirely legal for prospective parents to engage foreign professional surrogacy agencies to help them.

When granting a parental order (which secures the status of a family unit created through surrogacy) the UK courts also have an explicit power to ‘authorise’ a payment of more than expenses to a surrogate mother at their discretion. The intent of the law is clearly to make this the exception rather than the rule, and to encourage altruistic surrogacy as the norm. However, the growth of cross border surrogacy is requiring these exceptional powers to be exercised more regularly.

Ultimately, it is positive that there is a legal solution in the UK for children caught in these difficult legal conflicts, and it is critical that this remains the case. Any attempt to tighten up the rules to enforce restrictions on payments more thoroughly will make things worse for innocent children, who in international situations may be put at serious risk.

What we need is better information about the perils of international surrogacy, and ultimately a move towards a more open, honest and straightforward legal solution in the UK (bearing in mind that payments for ‘expenses’ in the UK are often not in practice much different in scale from payments typical for ‘commercial’ US surrogacy arrangements).

Many parents still enter into foreign surrogacy arrangements without being aware of the potential legal complications and then find themselves stranded abroad facing a legal process which is much more complicated than they had anticipated. Others know of the difficulties and some choose not to engage with the UK legal system at all (which is practically possible in certain scenarios, depending on the immigration position) thereby leaving their family’s status entirely unsecured. Either way, children are being put at risk and this is something we have a duty to take very seriously.

 

 

Natalie writes editorial in the Guardian: Can the UK deliver surrogacy reform?

Wednesday, December 29th, 2010

Natalie Gamble has written a comment piece for the Guardian, and you can join the discussion about possible reforms to the UK’s surrogacy laws. Do support us with this – we need your help!

Here’s the link: http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2010/dec/29/elton-john-david-furnish-surrogacy-law?

And here’s our article in full:

After the birth of Elton and David’s son, can the UK deliver surrogacy reform?

Elton John and David Furnish’s announcement of the birth of their son through a Californian surrogacy arrangement follows hot on the heels of a high court decision allowing payments for foreign surrogacy just a few weeks ago. Brits building their families through surrogacy seems to be a growing trend, prompting some conservative groups to cry “baby buying” and to raise concerns about the treatment of children as commodities.

But as those affected by surrogacy know, this is far from the reality. Having advised hundreds of families created through surrogacy, I know that parents do not choose that option lightly. The vast majority have heart-wrenchingly long and painful journeys behind them (tales of miscarriages, stillbirths and gruelling years of IVF disappointments). For gay couples, surrogacy gives the hope of a much-wanted family, and arrangements are entered into with planning and care. Surrogate mothers take pride in helping to create families and, whether or not they are paid, the parents involved do not treat the enormous and life-changing gift they make lightly. Children born through surrogacy arrangements are far from commodities or accessories.

The bigger question here is not whether surrogacy is a good thing – and my experience suggests that properly regulated surrogacy is unequivocally good for families – but whether our laws are up to scratch for the 21st century.

UK surrogacy law has its roots in the 1980s and has always been a fudge. Surrogacy is restricted (advertising and commercial agencies are banned) but endorsed where arrangements are deemed “acceptable” (most comfortably, where everyone consents and no more than “reasonable expenses” is paid). It isn’t a workable compromise, since there is little control in practice of what happens when people go outside the “acceptable” framework.

Over the past 20 years, other countries have pinned their colours to the mast more confidently. Many Catholic European countries have prohibited surrogacy altogether (although these restrictions are increasingly proving untenable and reform is afoot in many places). At the other end of the scale, certain US states, Ukraine and India allow enforceable commercial surrogacy. In California, couples have for many years been able to enter into a binding surrogacy agreement with the help of a professional agency (having undergone psychological counselling, legal advice and medical vetting) and obtain a court order during the pregnancy that allows the intended parents to be named on the birth certificate from the outset.

The patchwork global approach to surrogacy drives people to cross borders, and the disparity of law creates grave (and often unforeseen) problems for the families involved. Most starkly, in a landmark 2008 case , much-wanted twins born to a British couple were left stateless and parentless in Ukraine (and at risk of being placed in a Ukrainian orphanage) because neither Ukrainian nor British law recognised its own citizens as the parents. Whatever we think of surrogacy and the practices of other countries, surely everyone would agree that this is unacceptable.

UK law on parenthood in surrogacy cases is ridiculously complex, and (being designed to exclude the status of biological donors in donation situations) very often makes the surrogate and her husband the parents to the exclusion of the intended biological parents. The parents (including gay couples as from April 2010) can apply to court to remedy the situation, but the post-birth “parental order” is a clumsy retrospective tool.

Our current legal system leaves children in limbo for far too long (often up to a year while the court application is processed), in the care of parents who technically don’t even have the legal authority to take them to the doctor. Intended mothers sometimes have to give up their jobs to look after their newborn children because their lack of recognition means they have no rights to maternity leave. The court cannot extend deadlines if missed (no matter how unwittingly). Applications from single parents are prohibited, which is disastrous if one intended parent dies unexpectedly during a surrogate pregnancy (believe me, it’s happened). And that’s before we even get started on the conflicts of law and immigration issues that arise where parents go abroad for surrogacy.

If there is to be any reform, the most tricky issue to resolve will undoubtedly be payments: in the UK surrogates are supposed to be reimbursed for their expenses only (although in practice the English court can, and does, authorise payments which exceed expenses). It is not illegal for Brits to pay more than expenses, nor to travel to a country with a more liberal regime. While we may prefer surrogacy to be entirely non-commercial, we need to recognise the global realities here, and also to understand with greater sophistication that payment and altruism are not necessarily mutually exclusive.

UK surrogacy law is riddled with flaws and desperately needs reconsideration. Yes, surrogacy involves some sensitivities and yes, we need to take care to protect the interests of all those involved and ensure there is no exploitation. But if surrogacy law is to be reviewed, we need to look at this in a sensible way that understands the subtleties and complexities of real surrogacy arrangements. Let’s embrace surrogacy and recognise the hope and wonderful gift that it brings, and let’s celebrate and support families created in this way. I, for one, send Elton and David my wholehearted congratulations and wish them every bit of luck on their parental journey.

Natalie quoted in today’s Guardian on the Elton John story

Wednesday, December 29th, 2010

From the Guardian, 29 December 2010 (Helen Pidd):

You can tell everybody this is our son

Helen Pidd byline. Helen Pidd

Elton John and David Furnish John and Furnish announced that their son had been born on Christmas Day. Photograph: Theo Wargo/Getty Images/Time Inc
When the Beatles imagined their lives aged 64, they sang of knitting sweaters by the fireside, doing the garden and balancing grandchildren on their knees. Three months off that landmark birthday, Elton John might have partly retired from the pop music industry, but he is set to be busier than ever after becoming a father for the first time. The singer announced today that he and his partner, David Furnish, who is 48, have become parents after using a surrogate mother in the US.
The boy, Zachary Jackson Levon Furnish-John, was born in California on Christmas Day, weighing 7lb 15oz, John’s LA-based publicist confirmed. The name Levon is the title of a track on John’s 1971 album Madman Across the Water. In a statement, the couple said: “We are overwhelmed with happiness and joy at this very special moment. Zachary is healthy and doing really well, and we are very proud and happy parents.” The identity of their son’s surrogate mother is being protected by the new parents, and all questions about the birth and conception were answered “no comment” by the singer’s UK-based publicist.

It is not known who is the father, but Natalie Gamble, a specialist in fertility law at Gamble and Ghevaert LLP, said that one or both men will have provided sperm. She said that in all Californian cases of which she was aware, prospective parents must provide the sperm, and the egg would come not from the surrogate but a second woman.

John has spoken in the past of his desire to become a father, announcing last autumn that he wanted to adopt a 14-month-old boy from an orphanage in Ukraine. He said then that the couple had always talked about adoption, but that he had objected because of his age.

It was the death of his keyboard player, Guy Babylon, that helped to change his mind. Babylon, who died of a heart attack aged 52 last year, had two children whom John described as “wonderful”. He said at the time: “What better opportunity to replace someone I lost than to replace him with someone I can give a future to?” His plans to adopt were reportedly thwarted by Ukrainian laws. Instead, the couple turned to the US, a popular destination for UK citizens hoping to enter into surrogate arrangements.

In some US states, including California, parents who have paid a surrogate can apply for a prebirth order. This means that they, and not the woman who carried the baby, will be listed on the birth certificate as parents, regardless of whose egg and sperm was used in conception. And in California, unlike in Britain, surrogates can be paid an unlimited fee.

Olga van den Akker, professor of health psychology at Middlesex University, said the potentially enormous sum paid by John – who has an estimated fortune of £185m, according to the Sunday Times Rich List – could cause problems for his son further down the line. “We don’t know how much Elton John paid for him, but it was almost certainly a lot more than he would have paid in the UK, where around £10,000 per child is the norm. In the US, babies can cost a lot, lot more than that, especially where celebrities are involved. “Problems could arise if he thinks that he has been sold by his ‘mother’ – either the surrogate, and/or the egg donor, if one was involved.”

Lawyers said that the sum paid would become legally important if John and Furnish want to bring up Zachary in the UK, where surrogacy is legal only for altruistic and not commercial reasons. Surrogacy has been regulated in Britain since 1985, after Kim Cotton was paid £6,500 to carry a child conceived using her own egg and the sperm of a man whose wife was infertile. Gamble said: “The immigration and nationality rules are complex, and John and Furnish’s child may require special permission from the Home Office to enter the UK. In any event, their legal status in California will not be automatically recognised here, and they will need to apply to the UK high court for a parental order which legally recognises them as parents.”

A judge must then weigh the child’s welfare against the need to uphold public policy – in other words, recognising the child’s need for loving parents while acknowledging that UK law does not encourage the commercialisation of surrogacy, said Gamble. “Of the three publicly available judgments made on foreign surrogacy arrangements in the UK court since 2008, all three have allowed the child to stay with the parents,” added Gamble, who this month represented a couple in a similar situation to John and Furnish.

In that case, the couple were deemed to have paid more than just “reasonable expenses” to an American surrogate. But Mr Justice Hedley allowed the couple to keep the child after ruling that the existing rules on payments were unclear, and that the baby’s welfare must be the main consideration. Only in the “clearest case” of surrogacy for profit would a couple be refused the necessary court order to keep the baby, he said.

Andrea Williams, director of the Christian Legal Centre, said: “Children are not commodities to be bought and sold. It is not the case that everybody has the right to a child, whatever the cost.”

Potential legal issues aside, several celebrities congratulated the singer, with Elizabeth Hurley among the first to offer her best wishes. She wrote on Twitter: “Massive congratulations to David and Elton on having their beautiful son. Can’t wait for my first cuddle.” Lord Sugar expressed disbelief at the news, tweeting on the microblogging site: “Am I hearing things right on Sky news Elton John becomes a surrogate father.” He added about an hour later: “Oh well congratulations to him.”

Surrogacy and the law

UK

• Only non-commercial (ie altruistic) surrogacy is legal.

• Surrogates cannot be paid a fee for carrying a child. They may only charge “reasonable expenses” ranging from £12,000 to £15,000, according to the voluntary organisation Childlessness Overcome Through Surrogacy.

• UK law does not recognise surrogacy as a binding agreement on either party. There is little the intended parents can do to secure their position before the birth, even if baby is genetically related to both intended parents and not the surrogate. It is illegal to advertise for surrogates or intended parents.

• The surrogate is always registered as the legal mother of the child, even if an embryo from the recipient couple was used, as in gestational surrogacy.

California

• Commercial surrogacy is legal.

• Surrogates can be paid unlimited fees for carrying children.

• The commissioning couple have parental responsibility, not the woman who gave birth to the child. Californian courts have consistently upheld the intended parents’ rights and obligations to their parenthood when they use a surrogate or egg donor to help create their families.

• Surrogacy agencies are legal. Surrogates and egg donors can advertise themselves on websites.

• California recognises a contractual intent as a basis for parentage, meaning that prospective parents using surrogates can get their names on the child’s birth certificates.

There is more information about gay surrogacy law and international surrogacy law on our website

Congratulations to Elton John and David Furnish

Tuesday, December 28th, 2010

Many congratulations to Elton John and David Furnish on the arrival of their son Zachary, born through a surrogacy arrangement in California on Christmas Day.

Important changes to the law were passed in 2008 giving equal treatment to same sex parents who conceive a child together and, just as Elton and David were among the very first gay couples to register their civil partnership when the new laws came into force in 2005, they stand to be one of the first gay couples named as joint legal parents of a surrogate child. Surrogacy law in the UK is complex and, as parents who have entered into an arrangement abroad, they will need to grapple with immigration and nationality issues as well as a court application here in the UK within six months of the birth to be recognised as Zachary’s legal parents.

They are just one of many gay couples starting a family through surrogacy, adoption and co-parenting. We send many congratulations to their new exceptional family, and we wish them the very best of luck with their parenthood journey.

There is more information about surrogacy law for gay couples on our website.

Stonewall Gay Dads’ Guide launched

Tuesday, November 2nd, 2010

Gay rights charity Stonewall has published the first ever Guide for Gay Dads, giving legal and practical help for gay men wanting to start a family. We are proud to have contributed to the guide as expert advisers and authors of the legal sections on surrogacy, donor conception and co-parenting for gay men. We work with many same sex parents (and prospective parents), and know that Stonewall’s guide will be an invaluable resource for gay couples exploring their options for starting a family.

You can read the guide in full at http://www.stonewall.org.uk/at_home/parenting/4696.asp

You can find out more information about fertility law on our website, with information about surrogacy law for gay men, acting as a known donor, donating sperm and gay parenting law.

Independent’s Pink List 2010 honours Natalie Gamble

Wednesday, August 4th, 2010

We are delighted that Natalie has been named in the Independent on Sunday’s Pink List 2010, the paper’s renowned annual review of the 101 most influential gay and lesbian people in Britain. At number 88, Natalie is recognised as a “pioneer of fertility law” who was “heavily involved in the Human Fertilisation and Embryology Act 2008 and nominated in 2008 as Stonewall’s Hero of the Year”.

The only practising lawyer named, Natalie is ranked alongside British gays and lesbians at the very top of a broad range of professions. The Pink List 2010 includes politicians Lord Mandelson and Deputy Lib Dem leader Simon Hughes, judges Lord Justice Etherton and Sir Adrian Fulford, former head of the Law Society Dame Janet Paraskeva, business leaders Lord Black (the Telegraph), Sir Michael Bishop (BMI) and Dawn Airey (CEO of Channel 5), theatre directors Sir Nicholas Hytner and Sir Cameron Mackintosh, Director of the British Museum Neil MacGregor, Radio 4 broadcaster Evan Davis, poet laureate Carol Ann Duffy, Turner Prize winning painter Sir Howard Hodgkin, Rabbi Lionel Blue, authors Sarah Waters and Philip Hensher, fashion designers Christopher Bailey and John Galliano, actors John Barrowman, Fiona Shaw and Simon Russell Beale, and celebrities Stephen Fry, Sue Perkins, Matt Lucas, Gok Wan, Alan Carr, Will Young and Radio 1 DJ Scott Mills. The number one spot – balanced fairly between the sexes – is rightly shared by leading business guru Mary Portas and courageous rugby player Gareth Thomas.

A new entrant to the list at number 88, Natalie is ranked among these pre-eminent individuals as the 25th most influential lesbian in today’s Britain. Her inclusion recognises Natalie’s groundbreaking work as a leading fertility lawyer, and her work as a prominent champion and advocate of same sex parents.

Prime Minister David Cameron, writing in the Independent on Sunday 1 August, said “The wall of prejudice is chipped away by high-profile role models, by public celebrations, by a positive approach to diversity. That’s why I congratulate everyone on this list for doing their bit to inspire and change attitudes. This is a country where people can be proud of who they are – and quite right too.”

You can find out more about Natalie Gamble and her work or read the Independent’s Pink List 2010 in full.

Bringing up baby (the options for gay men)

Tuesday, May 4th, 2010

This month’s Out in the City magazine for gay men features an article titled ‘Bringing up Baby’ which we wrote for the magazine. The feature reviews the options for building a family through conception as a gay man, including surrogacy, co-parenting and known sperm donation, including the recent changes to UK surrogacy law.

You can read the article here (Bringing up Baby) or see our website for further information about surrogacy for gay men, and co-parenting and known sperm donation.

Completion of the UK’s new fertility laws welcomed today

Tuesday, April 6th, 2010

The last piece of the government’s flagship Human Fertilisation and Embryology Act 2008 came into force today, completing the first major overhaul of the UK’s fertility laws in twenty years. The HFE Bill is a major piece of government legislation which has updated the UK’s 1990 laws to bring them into line with 21st century scienific and social advances. It has introduced important changes including:

* new rights for lesbian partners to be recognised as parents after sperm donation,

* the abolition of clinics’ obligation to consider a child’s need for a father before offering fertility treatment,

* the broadening of the extended storage rules for gametes and embryos, allowing more people to store precious embryos for longer,

* new rights for donor conceived people to make contact with genetic siblings,

* a clearer legal framework for preimplantation genetic diagnosis, and

* the widening of surrogacy laws to allow same sex and unmarried couples to apply for legal parenthood.

The Act has been brought into force in stages, with the new parenthood rules on donor conception in force first for conceptions after 6 April 2009 and the bulk of the Act in force on 1 October 2009. The final pieces of the jigsaw, which came into force today, are the changes to surrogacy law, allowing same sex and unmarried couples to apply to court to become the parents of a surrogate born child and updating the court rules and procedures. This completes the implementation of this major piece of government legislation, rather fittingly today, the day on which it has been announced that this Parliament will be dissolved.

We are proud to have played a role at the forefront of these important legal changes, championing the position of fertility patients and same sex parents. Our contributions to the public and Parliamentary debate and to the legal changes include:

* Helping to secure the important new rights for same sex parents (work for which Natalie was nominated by gay rights organisation Stonewall as their Hero of the Year 2008, named by Diva magazine as one of the UK’s most influential gay women, and invited to 10 Downing Street to meet the Prime Minister last month);

* Winning a last minute government U-turn on embryo storage which allowed surrogacy patients to save embryos from destruction and store them for an extended period;

* Lobbying for changes to surrogacy law, which were debated in Parliament (but sadly not adopted) – we are continuing to campaign on this;

* Winning improvements to nationality law for British parents of children born through surrogacy abroad following our contribution to the Department of Health’s consultation on the new parental order regulations.

Find out more about the legal changes on our website, relating to donor conception, surrogacy and fertility treatment.

Today’s Guardian – Couples who pay surrogate mothers could lose right to raise the child

Tuesday, April 6th, 2010

By Denis Campbell, health correspondent. Published in the Guardian, Monday 5 April 2010

Childless couples who acquire a baby using a surrogate mother abroad risk not being recognised as its parents in Britain if they flout British law by paying fees, fertility lawyers have warned.

Such payments, which can be as high as £30,000, could lead to those who have made them being refused permission by the high court to become the child’s legal parents, specialist solicitors say. The Human Fertilisation and Embryology Act 1990 allows couples entering into deals with a surrogate mother overseas to pay her only what is allowed here – “expenses reasonably incurred”, such as compensation for time off work, medical bills and living expenses. But lawyers handling such cases have told the Guardian a growing number of couples are embarking on international surrogacy in places such as India, the US and Ukraine, and that many of them are in effect flouting the law by paying whatever is needed to get a child. This could cause serious problems for them and the children as the high court may not grant a parental order.

More couples have sought legal advice about international surrogacy in the past two years, fertility lawyers say. Finding a surrogate in the UK is difficult, and many see surrogacy abroad as their last chance, said Miranda Baker, a lawyer in the field. Lawyers predict that more people will pursue such deals after tomorrow, when the law changes to allow unmarried and same-sex couples to apply for parental orders.

Last November Mr Justice Hedley heard that a Mr and Mrs A had paid $23,000 (£15,000) to acquire twins from a surrogate mother in California. Mr A was the biological father. His sperm had been used to fertilise an egg from an anonymous donor and embryos were implanted into the surrogate. It was clear that “a significant element, although it is difficult to specify exactly what, of the $23,000 represents a payment contrary to the [law]“, he said.

Among matters of public policy the case raised was that “the court should be astute not to be involved in anything that looks like the simple payment for [in effect] buying children”. Despite that, Hedley granted Mr and Mrs A a parental order.

Hedley took the same view in 2008 in the case of X and Y – the first international surrogacy case the high court ruled on. A married couple whose repeated attempts to become parents had failed had twins known as X and Y using a Ukrainian surrogate. They also paid more than was “reasonable” to the woman, who used the money to put down a deposit on a flat, but obtained an order.

Sam King, a family law barrister specialising in assisted reproduction, warned couples having a baby through surrogacy abroad not to assume the high court would retrospectively endorse an arrangement that was “obviously commercial”. “They are taking a chance [by paying large sums]. Not all judges may be as generous as Mr Justice Hedley has been so far. All you need is one family to be denied a parental order because too much money has been paid for the whole thing to be thrown into confusion.”

Natalie Gamble, a lawyer who acted for the parents in both those cases, said: “If you don’t get a parental order the English couple aren’t seen as the child’s legal parents and you are committing an offence if you are caring for a child that’s not yours. You have to tell social services if you’re doing that.”

International surrogacy is hugely controversial. “It’s unethical and exploitative because the trade is all one-way,” said Breedagh Hughes, a Royal College of Midwives spokeswoman, on the ethics of childbirth. “It reduces babies to the level of commodities.”

Jonathan, a 32-year-old nurse, tells how he and his civil partner, Colin, 33, a financier, spent $150,000 (£98,000) on surrogacy to become the parents of Harriet, who was born in California last year. They live in London.

“We began discussing having a child in 2006, when we were deciding to become civil partners. I was feeling broody, and had always wanted to have my own biological child. We opted to pursue surrogacy in California because we would get legal custody there of the child before it was born and the surrogate would have no legal relationship to the baby.

“My sperm was introduced to eggs left by an egg donor: they were fertilised in an IVF clinic in Los Angeles and two of the embryos were implanted into the surrogate. She simply carried the child for nine months.

An agency in LA found both the egg donor and the surrogate. We never met the egg donor or knew who she was, but knew her medical history, results of her genetic tests, what she looked like and so on. We did meet and get on well with the surrogate, who was called Jennifer. She had two daughters of her own and had been a surrogate once before. There was no coercion. We had a contract, and Jennifer specified things in that like that she wanted back massages and a big hotel room for her family to stay in when she was giving birth.

Agencies in California quote a price of $100,000 to $150,000 to do everything relating to a child. The whole process wasn’t too difficult, and cost us about $150,000. We paid the embryologist $60,000, though that included the harvesting of the donor’s eggs, the IVF and the transfer of the embryos into the surrogate. It was $40,000 for the surrogate and $10,000 for the egg donor, plus $10,000 to the agency, who supplied the donor and the surrogate. Then there was $10,000 for our lawyer, $5,000 for the medical and psychological screening and another $5,000 for medication for both the donor and the surrogate, to ensure they were in cycle at the same time.

“Bringing Harriet into the UK nine months later was incredibly difficult, though, and we engaged lawyers to help us. She had to come in as an immigrant on a US passport on a six-month tourist visa. When we later filled in a form to get her British citizenship, we put ‘not known’ in the section headed ‘mother’. She now has dual nationality and is legally ours under Californian law. If we do apply, it could be an issue that we paid well over the ‘reasonable expenses’ limit – that is, we paid a fee. That’s illegal in this country, but allowed under Californian law.

“We shouldn’t have to seek a parental order. She was conceived and born in California as our child, and her birth certificate says who her parents are, so the courts here should respect Californian law.

Having to apply for a parental order, where there’d be an assessment of Harriet’s welfare and Colin would have to prove that he’s no danger to her, is an inequity. Anybody else can go out, get drunk, get pregnant, bring up a child appallingly and face no intervention or legal barriers.

I resent people saying that British couples who resort to surrogacy are buying babies abroad. We didn’t buy Harriet: she’s not picked off a shelf. She’s not a ‘designer baby’.

We had our own child and had a great team to help us. All we did was rent a woman to carry her. We paid for the services of an embryologist and an incubator who walks and makes good babies – but we didn’t buy a baby. She’s my daughter biologically, and she’s our baby.

A lot of heterosexual couples in the UK spend a lot of money having many cycles of IVF at £5,000 a time – is that not buying a baby?”

Only first names have been given to protect the family’s identity

More information on surrogacy law and international surrogacy law from the Gamble and Ghevaert website.

Today’s Observer: New surrogacy laws ease the path to parenthood for gay men

Sunday, March 28th, 2010

By Robin McKie, science editor, The Observer, Sunday 28 March 2010

Changes to legislation will recognise growing trend for same-sex couples to become parents, say campaigners.

Gay male couples will be able to use a fast-track route to become the legal parents of surrogate children from next week. On 6 April, changes to the law will permit two men to be named as parents on a child’s birth certificate for the first time in British history.

The transition will take effect following the implementation of the final piece of the 2008 Human Fertilisation and Embryology Act. This last section is aimed at helping same-sex and unmarried couples who seek to have surrogate children and will allow them to secure legal parenthood in a new, simplified manner. At present, only married, heterosexual couples can use this route.

“These changes bring the law up to date with the realities of modern 21st-century life and recognise that increasing numbers of same-sex and unmarried couples are having children together,” said Natalie Gamble, of the fertility law firm Gamble and Ghevaert.

Surrogacy has become increasingly common and offers couples an alternative route to parenthood if all other methods, including IVF treatments, fail. Current legislation allows heterosexual, married couples to get a parental order to give them a birth certificate for a child born to a mother with whom they have entered into a surrogacy agreement. But gay, lesbian and unmarried couples cannot do this. The surrogate mother has to be named on the birth certificate. If she is married, her husband is legally considered to be the father.

An example is provided by the story of Steven Ponder and his partner, Ivan Sigston. Both are police officers. Last year, they became one of the first gay couples to father a baby in Britain when Ponder’s married sister, Lorna Bradley, gave birth to a boy, William.

Crucially, however, Lorna Bradley’s name appeared on the birth certificate, which made her a legal guardian of the child. Ponder and Sigston could have applied to adopt the baby. If successful, they would have been given an adoption certificate to replace his original birth certificate. But adoption is complex and involves the intervention of social workers and other professional groups.

The new system is far more streamlined. Provided that a court is satisfied that two men are in a stable relationship; that no fees, other than expenses, are paid to the surrogate mother; and that it is in the child’s best interest, then it will award a parental order for a birth certificate to be drawn up with both men named as parents, and therefore legal guardians. “Lesbian couples and unmarried couples usually have other routes available to them if they want to have children, but surrogacy is particularly important to gay men, so they will get most out of this change in legislation,” said Gamble.In effect, the law has now opened the doors in order to make it easy for a gay man and his partner to have children.

This point was backed by Ben Summerskill, chief executive of Stonewall, the gay rights campaign group: “We are delighted that the reality of people’s family lives is being recognised at last, that both lesbian and gay couples no longer have to go through the unpleasantness of an adoption procedure.”

Gamble warned, however, that while the new legislation would make it easier for gay couples to have children, the rules governing surrogacy in the UK remained badly out of date.

“There are particular pitfalls for single parents and those going abroad. In the latter case, a couple returning to England with a surrogate child find that the law does not recognise their right to parenthood. It can cause immense distress. There are a lot of aspects of surrogacy that now need to be addressed urgently.”

More information about surrogacy law, international surrogacy law, and how the law is changing for same sex and unmarried couples from Gamble and Ghevaert LLP.